I have discovered that for me, spiritual growth is driven by intent to develop a different perspective and by paying attention to connections in the universe that facilitate that different perspective.
Maybe we are just wrong and misguided. Fortunately for us, we do not face this ourselves. We can only imagine what it is like to have lost a child; for that important piece of your heart to be ripped away, leaving only emptiness.
Much is made in bereavement circles about the different ways in which men and women grieve and mourn their loved ones. Men are said to be stoic, strong, tough, aloof, silent, tearless, and on the whole incapable of expressing emotion.
I was watching a promotional ad on television recently for the show “Intervention” and saw a quote from Ernest Hemingway, which read: “The world breaks everyone, and afterward many are strong at the broken places.” Actually, this quote is a passage from Hemingway’s novel: “A Farewell to Arms.” Hemingway was one of the great American writers of his time, who died in 1961 as a result of suicide.
Suicide Survival
News, searing pain, disbelief, questions, sadness, what if, emptiness, darkness . . .
After my daughter Jeannine died at the age of 18 in March of 2003,there were signs of her everlasting presence in my life. In the beginning of my journey, though I acknowledged these signs, I didn't develop a greater appreciation for what they communicated to me about the sacredness of the relationship that I developed with Jeannine in the ethereal plane, until much later in my journey. Because of my ongoing relationship with Jeannine I have determined that we can receive clarity about our life transitions from all that is part of the universe.
When we lose a loved one--especially in a sudden and traumatic way—we typically experience a wide range of emotions. Sadness and anger we expect, but many other confusing thoughts and feelings often arise.
Pinpointing these emotions can help us feel a little more in control and a little less perplexed, even if there’s not an immediate solution or explanation for why we’re feeling this way.
I ‘lost’ my daughter to suicide a little over four years ago. She was the light in our world . . . still is. She continues to communicate with me. Recognizing her presence within my life has brought me peace. Maybe you have lived through the agony of loss and are still on that merry-go-round of pain and suffering. It can become a circle of struggle, a waste of precious life on this incredible earth that you have chosen to inhabit. I say this because it is so sad for me to see those people who are stuck in places of sadness, guilt, and pain.