During the holidays my wife and I were having a discussion about our Being With Grief meetup group. We started this group over a year ago and now have over 60 members. That number tells us there are a lot of people out there who recognize that they are suffering and grieving for one reason or another. Yet, only a handful of those people actually show up at each meeting.
When we talk into a room, we tend to look for people who are like us. It’s natural, automatic. We look for affinity, because we relate most naturally to those with whom we have something in common.
When we’re enduring loss, we need people who are like us. We need people who know grief.
We should not be too quick to abandon suffering,
lest we miss its savage blessing.
Every ending is a chance to grow stronger
in longing for what was lost.
Inside the truth of our most painful experiences
we find the seeds of new beginnings.
It is never too late
to forgive, to learn, to grow
I've been thinking about this idea a lot this week – ‘give yourself permission to grieve/feel/be ok/be not ok.’ It is a very therapist-y thing to say and it is definitely something that I have told clients. With all things we tell clients, most social workers know that it is easier said than done.