When Money Complicates Our Grief
Financial issues are naturally stressful. So is loss. Put the two together, and the pressure can be overwhelming and frustrating.
Financial issues are naturally stressful. So is loss. Put the two together, and the pressure can be overwhelming and frustrating.
FROM THE GRIEVING HEART:
I feel frozen. Stuck. Paralyzed.
The world is moving, but I’m not. I’m going through the motions. I walk in a daze. I find myself staring at walls.
I can’t move. It’s like my heart has been anesthetized.
When our hearts have been hit, loneliness begins to invade. Every relationship is unique. No wonder grief is lonely.
FROM THE GRIEVING HEART:
People seem shy around me. And no one mentions you. Why is that?
Are they worried about upsetting me? I’m already upset.
When a loved one dies, our lives are altered forever. This includes the future we anticipated.
FROM THE GRIEVING HEART:
When loss strikes, our lives are forever altered. We don't like this new life. Someone we love is missing.
FROM THE GRIEVING HEART:
I don’t like this new life. I want a life with you back in it. I miss talking to you. I want to hear your voice — not a voicemail, but your real voice. I want you here, now.
We need to be heard. We need to be seen. We want to be loved. Grief is hard enough already.
We know loss is painful, but none of us is quite prepared for the loneliness that descends on us.
From the Grieving Heart:
Grief is a marathon. It's fatiguing and exhausting. We can wonder if it will ever end.
From the Grieving Heart:
When loss hits, our lives are upended. It seems that everything changes. We hear the term, "new normal." Often, however, we don't like this new life we're living.
We're hurting. The last thing we need is to be evaluated. Unkind and unhelpful words end up only adding to our burdens.