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The Grief Toolbox is providing our user contributed articles as well as aggregated articles from a variety of blogs. Please join our community and comment on the articles, let us and others know what you found helpful and that you did not. Together we can help each other as well as future travelers on their grief journey. We are also always looking for additional contributors; if you see a topic you would like to share your thoughts on, please submit content.

Grief is not just emotional or psychological; it is also physical.  It is important to attend to your physical health.  Do not hesitate to consult with a trusted physician. Exercise and try to improve your eating habits.  It will take time to begin to withdraw yourself from the comfort foods that may have become your [...]

Music can be a great resource to process loss. Read up on the grieving songs and the style of songs that comforted me in my grief journey. Comments
Often in the grieving process, we feel anything but normal. Discover that you are not alone. I will share with you some grief songs and my own experience to show you that yes, you are normal. And, it gets better. Comments
The flickering flame and the trickling waterfall captivate and soothe our imaginations demonstrating we are fascinated by change, until it brings hurt. Then change is a pariah; she is to be an outcast, despised for what she brings. That change is something to be avoided. How do we deal with the forced adjustment in change? Comments
As I gently quizzed a friend who had lost her 26-year-old son, some four years ago, regarding the journey of her grief process, I asked the specific question: 'What were some of the bigger challenges in adjusting to life without him?' Her response surprised me somewhat. She said that the questions and assertions of some people had hurt and frustrated her. My friend cited two examples... Comments
When you are grieving hard, it is easy to become worn out. Learn a couple of coping mechanisms that may make the journey a bit easier. Comments

Do you do something special with your Christmas cards to include your baby? I have seen cards with baby angels on them, and I know some people include their baby's name in their signature or stamp it with a special stamp (a little star or heart) to include their child. What do you do?


Perhaps without doubt the hardest adjustment of life is going on without a most-close loved one. I have never lost such a most-close loved one, a partner or a child, but I have lost something just as significant: a marriage. Maybe you will relate in some different way. They give solid meaning to the further expression of life for us. They make the future relevant for recognition of the past. Comments

As a counsellor, coach or other therapist we are not exempt from needing help. We all do face life issues that we cannot easily deal with ourselves and need an outside expert to support us. Even though we work in the field of supporting people it does not mean we can easily fix all our own problems.


Being with people who are grieving is not an easy place to be in. Many of us want to fix things and offer well-meant solutions, space-fillers or cliches. This cannot be resolved or fixed. The process of grief has no set timeline or deadline, it is always ever a starting point with a line that might fade with time but there is most likely no end point.


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