What Helps… Part 2

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Alex Rodriguez April 3, 2014 - 10:50pm

What Helps...

Part 2

If you call, that helps.

If you text hi, that helps.

If you message me, that helps.

If you sit and listen to me, that helps.

If you can say loving words, that helps.

If you understand i won't get over it, that helps.

If you can refrain from telling me how to feel or what to do, that helps.

If you try and understand  my grief, that helps.

If you are  ok with my tears, that helps.

If you're physically present, that helps

If you give me a hug,   that helps

If you say his name, that helps.

If you facebook me,that helps

If I see you, that really helps

If you are a friend that

 shows up, that

  HELPS. 

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Alex Rodriguez is a wife and mother of 3 boys and life long resident of Mill Valley, CA. She lost her 2nd born son Steven (19) to a very rare brain cancer on 10/17/13. One of 30 documented of adult AT/RT. One of 5 documented cases side effects of chemotherapy called neutropenic gastritis. He was diagnosed May 15, 2013. After suffering uncontrolled headaches for a period of a few weeks and being misdiagnosed as - Wisdom Teeth, Whip lash, dehydration, Poor Diet, and being told by a doctor after doing a neurology exam (sans CT/MRI) "Good news is you don't have a brain tumor".. It was found that he indeed did have a 7cm brain tumor located on his right frontal lobe. After Emergency Craniotomy partial resection , and 121 Days of Inpatient Care of aggressive Chemotherapy ( exploding his tumor) and radiation- his hard fought battle was lost. But not without displaying courage and positiveness and a thirst for life. He was Given 2 options to return home if he had enough.. he continued to fight and would never give up .. as in his words - Even though it "sucked" …he was happy to just be alive. This is my journey as a grieving mother. Steven is survived by Alex, his father, Rafael and 2 brothers Michael (22) and Matthew (13)
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