We can never be absolutely prepared for losses, even if common sense tells us that they are inevitable. And when this happens, the only thing we can do is accept our grief, recognize our feelings and acknowledge the fact that life goes on anyway. Life continues for you, including - and therefore, taking care of yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself, your family and your beloved people who are with you now. And not with you either. Let's try to get started.
Our psyche is designed in such a way that we recognize and experience our losses very slowly and gradually, stage by stage. This is a kind of protective mechanism of our nervous system, which allows us to cope with losses and find the strength to continue to move. The first stage of acceptance of grief is shock and denial, and the last is acceptance itself.
So, the question of taking care of yourself is a question for those who are already at the last stage - at the stage of acceptance and the need to continue their lives, keeping their loss in their soul and memory.
Unfortunately, if you are still in the early stages, then you will not be able to take any active actions. All your emotions and feelings are directed inside you - just let them be there. As soon as we allow our feelings to be in us, we automatically live them and become ready to let them go, to reach the last stage of grief, the stage of acceptance. Therefore, feel this, allow yourself to grieve - the only way to survive the loss is to live it completely.
All our mental experiences have a direct impact on our physical health - this is a way of organizing the human body that we cannot change. And therefore, if you are ready to think about yourself now, then start by making an appointment with your doctor and check your physical indicators.
It is very possible that your doctor will prescribe you supportive medications to normalize blood pressure, calm the nervous system and improve sleep - this is a normal appointment in this situation. Do not neglect this support, since our physical shell is as important as the mental one - they are very closely interconnected and cannot exist separately from each other.
This is the second step towards taking care of yourself after experiencing loss. Proper nutrition, adequate drinking, and healthy sleep are the three main components that your body needs the most. Your task is to give them to it.
Start by normalizing your drinking regimen. This is a prerequisite. An organism that suffers from dehydration is not able to cope with either physical or moral tasks. Support it with water.
Next, you need to return to the normal meal schedule. It is possible that experiencing every stage of your grief, you either totally lost your appetite or acquired the wrong eating habits - both of these situations require correction. And they can be resolved in one universal way - this is an intuitive diet. Start eating what your body asks you to give it - and in sufficient quantities, no more, no less. Just a few days of intuitive nutrition will give you the opportunity to start feeling better.
And finally, you need a normal sleep. This is another condition for recovering from a loss. In a dream, our brain is cleansed of emotions lived during the day, processing them and sending them to the back of the subconscious - and gradually the feeling of healing comes.
After your body has received enough water, the possibility of proper nutrition and healthy sleep, it is time to redirect your energy to a peaceful course. Yes, we are about sports. This is the best medicine in almost any situation - we say this without exaggeration. Moreover, sports contribute to the production of hormones of happiness - and this is the feeling that you need most. Therefore, find the strength in yourself to move, and do it in the way that you like most. Strength training with a barbell, morning jogging in the park and oriental dances are equally suitable for this purpose. Find what you like and start moving.
Is there something that brings you real pleasure and a feeling of fullness? Most likely, you know the answer to this question. However, it is impossible to just get out of the couch and begin to take care of yourself comprehensively in an instant - this process should be gradual and not take away your strength, but rather give you more strength in return.
Therefore, you need to choose one small and simple self-care habit and begin to develop it. If you don’t know where to start, start with breathing practices. A few minutes of conscious breathing per day is quite feasible, and moreover, it is very useful for your awareness of your emotions and desires. As soon as the habit of breathing consciously, meditating and thinking at that moment about your true desires becomes an integral ritual in your life, begin to develop the following habit - for example, give up caffeine or sugar.
If it is difficult for you to start taking care of yourself for your own sake, this is understandable at the moment. Just remember what the person you lost wanted for you. Do you think he wanted you to suffer and not have the strength to get out of the couch? Or maybe he wanted to see you healthy, successful, emotionally filled and loving your life? Most likely, the second option is true. Think about it and start taking care of yourself, respecting the memory of a person who is dear to you - and will remain forever in this status. And if you believe in the continuation of life in heaven, then your self-care and your happiness will be the same happiness for the person who went there.
Yes, and this is the most important thing. Not a single language in the world has such words that heal grief instantly. But there are words that can support and give strength. And we hope that this article has coped with this task.