“Death ends a life, not a relationship.” - Jack Lemmon
A Simple Way To Receive Signs from our Loved Ones
If you are waiting and wanting a sign from your loved one, a simple way to receive signs is: Notice them.
That's one important step in the simple ways to receive signs from your loved ones, now, let's move on to the expanded version; a fuller explanation that is not.. quite.. so simple.
Fuller Explanation of Receiving Signs From Our Loved Ones
Are you one of the many grieving people who want to receive signs from your deceased loved ones? If you are reading this, most likely you are. And, most bereaved people I speak with do...
Yes, when we are in grief:
· We want to receive signs from our loved ones
· We want to know they are OK
· We want to know that they still exist
· We want to be reassured that they are not mad at us, in pain or continuing the problems that they experienced in their physical life
· We want to know that their death was not painful
But how do we find the answers to these questions and just how do we learn to receive their signs?
Processing How to Receiving Signs From Our Loved Ones
The following are steps in receiving signs from your loved ones BUT, key to understanding this process lies inside you and the understanding you have of your significance as a participant in the process. So we'll start there....
Let's navigate seven steps in the process for understanding and living with your new relationship with your deceased loved one and how to receive signs from them:
First: If we believe in eternal life, life everlasting or the consciousness surviving after death, then we have to realize that what we are experiencing now, is a continuation of the relationship we had with our loved one. But, we are still in the physical and our loved one is in the energetic. (spiritual)
Second: This belief is the bottom line in understanding the dynamics of receiving signs from our loved ones. This is where we need to reframe our thinking in order to have a clearer understanding of receiving signs from our loved ones.
More than 3/4 of the world's religious populations believe in an eternal life, life everlasting or some form of life continuing after death. If you are one of those who formerly (the time prior to the death of your loved one) believed in some form of eternal life, your loved one's death will test that belief.
Your beliefs will be shaken by your loved one's death but moving through this process is part of your grief journey.
Third: The griever needs to understand that receiving signs is only a part of a new two-way communication in a new kind of relationship. Part of this understanding is recognizing that we have a responsibility in building and maintaining our new relationship. But first, we need to identify what that relationship is...
Fourth: It sounds obvious but our new relationship involves two entities: 1. the sender and 2. the receiver. If receiving signs were based on the griever's desire, all grieving people would be receiving many signs as our deceased loved ones want to let us know that this new relationship exists and they ARE sending us signs whether we know it or not.
But, when we hear that other grieving people and friends have received signs from their loved ones in the form of seeing butterflies, hummingbirds, heart shaped clouds, feathers, coins, orbs, etc, we may decide that we want confirmation of our continuing relationship by our loved one sending us a feather or dropping a coin or sending us a hummingbird.
But, it doesn't work that way for three reasons:
· Your loved ones KNOW what is important to YOU and know what you would notice, so they send a message to you in the form of a personal sign that you would understand
· Your loved ones may not be ABLE to send the type of sign that you particularly desire. Remember, they have a learning curve also in how they can communicate
· You may not be able to RECEIVE that kind of message. (i.e.: if your grief is still so overwhelming or you are preoccupied with the pain of your grief, signs will be impossible to notice or be missed)
Besides, they want you to receive the message so why would they use a hummingbird to connect with you if you had no connection to birds or had no previous interest in them? And, perhaps your relationship had no connection to birds in your physical relationship with them.
~ If you placed a screwdriver on your counter but rarely used tools, would you notice if it moved? Probably not but if you and your child worked on cars together, you probably would notice.
~ If your daughter used to wear special hair barrettes and you found one on the floor, you would probably notice it and be less likely to think it was a coincidence.
~ If your loved one was not interested in electronics and your cell phone displayed a strange number or television changed channels, you may not notice. (or reason that it was a coincidence, a cell tower or your television company malfunction) But if your loved one was highly involved with electronics, had a playful personality or joked about electronics, (in their physical life) you would be more aware of the possibility of connection through your electronic devices.
Several reasons surface for this kind of thinking:
· Others have received these familiar signs and because of that evidence, we think that our loved one could emulate that sign
· Since others have received these familiar signs, we are more likely to believe that it IS a sign
· Receiving a familiar/similar sign would encourage the griever to trust that it IS a sign from their loved one.
Expanded Version, Simple Explanation, Difficult Process
Grasping the previous information into your understanding, three steps round out the simple explanation of a difficult process of receiving signs from your loved one in your grief. Because these steps are actually in-depth material for other articles in themselves about creating an environment to be able to receive signs, it's necessary to just briefly outline them here.
Fifth: Awareness: One must be aware of their inner world and what is occurring within them self in order to identify what is occurring in their outer world. Although in early grief this may be almost impossible, progression in your journey will allow your focus to change from body to mind - where choices can be made. When you allow yourself to move through some of the pain and devastation of grief, you are able to see, with different eyes (the ones of the heart) what you have survived and what tools you have used, which will enable you to recognize other possibilities in your world of grief.
Sixth: Noticing: One must notice and be open to possibilities in their world. When you notice what you are aware of, it solidifies your learning and that learning helps in progressing you in your grief. It's a major step in moving you through your grief by allowing you to recognize your progress and your learning and how your learning builds upon itself to create how and what you want to feel and how you want to live.
Seventh: Trusting: One must learn to trust what they notice and what they feel internally. One lives, learns and behaves differently when one trusts; when one trusts what is occurring inside. When you know what you think, what you feel and what you believe, what you demonstrate to the world forms congruency in your life. That congruency inside provides meaning to your life, makes life simpler and more gratifying. Like life, grief, patience and acceptance, learning to trust is also a process.
A Simple But Not Easy Process ...
Receiving signs from your loved ones is not necessarily easy nor does it automatically occur after someone's death. Although the energetic level of existence is different, continuing your relationships with your loved ones in spirit has some similarities to those in the physical. Your continuing relationship requires that both parties maintain the connections, both take responsibility for their part of the relationship and respect is reciprocated through awareness, noticing and trusting of yourself and the other person.
It's a simple plan to help you move through your grief; it's not easy...learning to receive signs from your loved one is a process...just like your grief...
Wishing you patience and peace...Chris