A Different Approach

I ‘lost’ my daughter to suicide a little over four years ago.  She was the light in our world . . . still is.  She continues to communicate with me.  Recognizing her presence within my life has brought me peace.  Maybe you have lived through the agony of loss and are still on that merry-go-round of pain and suffering.  It can become a circle of struggle, a waste of precious life on this incredible earth that you have chosen to inhabit.  I say this because it is so sad for me to see those people who are stuck in places of sadness, guilt, and pain.

Please come with me and rise above your pain into a space where you can see much more clearly, a place where you can see your life in its fullness.  What does this loss mean to your life?  What roads are opened to you because of it?  What new directions are you being taken  into?  How does it somehow make some sense in the big picture of who you are and what your mission in this life is?  What have you learned from this loss?  How can you use this loss to expand yourself and the world around you? 

These questions may lead you to a place of contemplation . . . a place of observation . . . of seeing something greater.  It did that to me.  I thought I knew what I believed, but, that was only a concept I played with in my mind.  My ‘loss’ led me to a higher understanding of life itself.  My daughter led me to it, and I am forever grateful to her for that.  Her sacrifice made a difference in how I am living the rest of my life, and I can say that it is for the better.  I am a far better person than I was before.  More aware, more open, more connected to the all.  I love being in nature, observing all around me, for there, I look for messages from my daughter.   

Yes, if I had my druthers, I would rather have a life with her here, but that is only my perspective.  Perhaps, she had to do what she had to do to complete some kind of new direction not only for herself, but also, for us all.  I do have my moments . . . I just recently learned that one of her friends was married and living the kind of life that I know my daughter might  have envisioned for herself.  I was happy for her friend, but sad in my heart.  For my daughter?  Perhaps, for me, that I would not see her experience those things.  Perhaps, she experienced just what she needed to in this life.  Who am I to judge that. . . or to be sad about it.  I am sad for myself, I guess. 

My daughter reminds me every day that she still exists, and I am grateful to have discovered that.  I say discovered, for, indeed, I say to you, all you must do is  to open your heart to experience it.  We are in the presence of all that have gone before us, the energy of all that is, every moment that we exist here in ‘separation’ from them.  We must just notice it, sense it!  If we believe that it is . . . then, it is.  There is that saying that if you think you can do something, you are right and if you think you can’t do it, you are right, too.  It’s like that.  If you believe, you can see the unseen, then your understanding can grow into places that you probably can’t even imagine!         

Please know that it is in your silence that those beyond can speak to you.  Seek solace.  Do not be afraid of it.  You need only notice their presence.  It can come in a thought.  Some would like you to believe that what you are hearing is not the truth, that you are imagining things, but, please know that they, those from beyond this life, are trying to communicate with you.   I have come to know it.

Imagine that you are on the other side of this life, that you can know, can feel, can see in some way what is going on, what is happening, and you desperately try to make some kind of contact with those whom you so clearly see, those whom you so clearly feel, and that their response is to toss your communication out to be something foolish, something to be ignored.  Imagine it. 

Now, some may think this a foolish notion, but, let’s give it a try, shall we?  What if it were true?  I tell you, believe and miraculous things can happen to you in your life!  The road will become easier to travel for you will see beauty in your path, things you have never noticed before.  They will astound you!  There is life beyond what we see, what we know here in this place.  Know it.  Believe it, and it will change your life here, now, in this place.  It will make you truly live life, each moment, noticing all that is happening around you. 

Do not suffer.  Your loved one is here, living alongside of you, maybe in a different form, but still, alive.  Notice them.  Let them be a part of your now.  It will change this place of darkness to which you can so often retreat, into a shining place of light where you commune with your loved one, a place like no other, a place that will bring peace into your heart and into your life.  It is how to go on, how to spend the rest of your days with new meaning. 

It means walking with all that you are, all of your experiences, embracing all that is your life.  Your loved one is still there, so much a part of you, and your soul knows it, for this is life.  Why not embrace it now!  They are not in some imaginary form  . . . no.  They are very real.  The energy that they are still exists.  Why not recognize it!  Recognize them, acknowledge them, and be grateful.  Let them help you.  Just ask, and you will receive.

I share these thoughts with you to bring you comfort, to bring you peace.  I know your suffering.  I know your pain, but you can transform it.  Expand your mind and open your heart to all that is.  Your loved one is there, waiting for you.

Love & Light,

Corinne

About the Author
Corinne experienced the loss of her youngest daughter, Vicki, a little over four years ago. She offers a higher perspective on the subjects of death, grief, and loss, and devotes her time to sharing, through writing and speaking, her personal story of discovery, encouraging others to expand themselves by re-thinking their own realities. She has spoken before audiences at workshops, to church & women’s groups, and most recently to a world-wide audience through her TEDxSunRiver talk entitled, Pigs Really Can Fly! She holds a B.S in Education from Edinboro University of Pennsylvania and is a retired teacher. Corinne is the author of Is it Dusk or Is it Dawn: A Hopeful Journey Through Grief, available on amazon.com. She is currently working on her second book, I’m Still Here, and continues to write poetry, her first love. Her website is www.ananchoroflight.com
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