Father's Day Prep: Who's Your Hero When You Don't Have a Dad?

My dad was my hero. He was a good man... I always felt taken care of. I have always been a pretty independent person but when he died I felt like who's going to take care of me now? Who's going to worry about me like he worried about me? That was when my mom was still here, and it's true she cared for me and worried about me, but there was something about my dad's strength that I just could not let go of.

The truth is, no one will love you like your dad and no one could ever fill his shoes... but there are people who want to love you if you look around.

On my dad's death bed, he asked my cousin Gary to look out for me. Gary has been a rock in my life, sticking to his word every day since and for that, I have to say thank you. You are a hero to me and I feel protected.

My brother, Bob, we've had our ups and downs and now we're on the ups. When I look at him I am reminded that I am looking at someone who's known me my whole life and even though we might not see eye to eye on all things, we are on the same team, with the same blood, and I know he'd be there if I needed him. Bob, you are a hero to me and I feel protected.

My friend Dan, who I've known since the 3rd grade, is a hero to me. He's always been the kind of person I could tell anything too and never feel judged. I have always been able to be myself, even though those akward periods of time where you're not really sure who you are. In our adult lives, we are both comfortbally and confidently friends for life. Dan, you are my hero and I feel protected.

So many people have been there for me in my life post-pop, but I feel the male list is small. I'm hoping to grow that list. This father's day, instead of focusing on the father, the son, and the hole in my heart (or his ghost), I'm focusing on my heros.

Who are your heros?

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My name is Lisa A. Snyder and I have lost both parents in my 20′s to cancer. My father passed away the day before my 23rd birthday from Hodgekins Disease Lymphoma in October 2004 and my mother passed away when I was 27, to AML (Leukemia), in June 2009. After being by their side during the decline of their health, I learned to be present and to help each of my parents finish up their business here in preparation for transitioning to whatever is after this life, deal with family, hospitals, keeping up my energy level, staying afloat in my own life as well as process my own grief.

Now, I’m working towards understanding how to live and keep living as best I can with life’s challenges I face daily, not having any parents. I’m trying to continue to live a healthy, active and adventurous, art filled life while I attempt to understand how to cope each day that goes by that they aren’t in my physical life.

My Intention is to connect those of us who have lost our mothers, our fathers or both parents, at any age, through art, writing, and focusing on the positive, despite these circumstances that have changed us forever.

Losing your parents could be anything from cancer, illness, sudden death, divorce, separation, being adopted, growing up not knowing who your mother or father was or being cut off from your parents because of your sexuality or life decisions.

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