The book, 52 Lists for Happiness, was a gift from my granddaughter. When I first read the title, I questioned the author’s concept. But when I opened the book and saw that Moorea Seal had divided it into four sections—Reflect, Acknowledge, Invest, Transform—I thought she might be on to something.
Well, here we are again. I'm sure some of you are getting tired of hearing from me. That's okay, I'm here anyway. We all have gone through a lot after our child/children passed. The road we now walk is so rocky and steep, the top so far away. Some of us won't make it and I already grieve for the loss of a light soul passing away from us. More of us will keep climbing, what else can we do? We can step out on different paths to see if they suit us but this main path will always be beside us whatever direction we go.
I have decided that unless my grandkids are in grave danger; I am keeping my opinions to myself.
I lost my youngest son 8 years ago in a sudden death accident. I have managed to function pretty well with the outside world. I go to a therapist, my doctor on schedule and participate in Grief groups. Not that I’m really concerned with myself however I don’t want my kids to mourn a brother and a mother.
It seems they don’t quite understand how hard living each day is for me. I will share an example from early on and one more recent.
Mom was homeless in the final thirteen months of her life.
My father-in-law was a gregarious person and made friends easily. He valued his friends and they valued him. Friends appreciated his “glad to see you” exclamations, handshakes, and heart-felt hugs. As the years passed Dad’s friends grew into an army of people.
When our hearts have been hit, loneliness begins to invade. Every relationship is unique. No wonder grief is lonely.
FROM THE GRIEVING HEART:
People seem shy around me. And no one mentions you. Why is that?
Are they worried about upsetting me? I’m already upset.
Following the passing of a wife or life-partner, it is the widower who needs support, not the deceased.
Hey Dad If you had one wish
I know your wish would be
To have me back from Heaven