Find a sense of calm in life but never give up

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J A DIller October 20, 2015 - 1:34pm

 

Yes, losing a child in life is unfathomable; the heart ache gets unbearable some days especially during times we see something which reminds us of the loss child or you just want to turn around to comment but you face a void blank space. It doesn’t matter what age the child passes away, the heart ache is all the same, the loss is so great, we feel like we might bust. Last night I thought about my oldest son Charlie and our last conversation, it ended with four words, “I love you Momma!” Those words keep me going in life, love doesn’t leave us nor does our child, as they journey along with us.

 

                 We recently were very lucky to be able to remodel our home. During this time I decided it was about time to pack away some of our family pictures. So, I boxed up most of Charlie’s picture I had hanging on our living room wall. A few days later I noticed a change in our son BJ, things came to my mind: Was it because of the change of flooring? Was it because moving things made such a great change? Or was it taking down Charlie’s pictures? I do have a few small pictures by my computer of Charlie. When life crisis hit a family we must think what’s best for not only the grieving parents but for our surviving child. Charlie’s pictures are safe boxed up in our attic, but seeing BJ come out of his shell brings glory to my heart.

 

                  The first change we made after losing Charlie was holiday traditions, BJ wanted to try different ways to celebrate the holidays. Yes, I know most find celebrating holidays really hard but find a way to make it your own, like taking a vacation, or not even decorating that first year, sounds bad but it’s about taking care of you, we must keep living no matter how hard it might be. This year we are neither decorating for Halloween nor giving out treats, tradition can be change it’s up to you to make the changes in your life. Changes doesn’t need to be expensive, move a picture, a chair, change your furniture around, try anything to make your life easier.

 

                   Find an easy way to bring peace into your life, sit and think about the changes you can make in each room to calm your soul. Maybe a tradition of having coffee in a quiet part of the house in the morning, or sit outside watch nature before the temperature drops. I hope everyone can find a sense of calm in life but never give up.

 

 

About the Author
Author J. A. Diller writes with a purpose. She hopes to provide inspiration and a sense of hope through engaging works of fiction. The focus of her work is to deliver the message that with family, faith and courage, nothing is impossible. While her work is considered fiction, it flows from personal experience. Judy lost her son Charlie at the age of 23. While a life event of this magnitude can and does wreck lives, Diller took another path. The event served as a catalyst that served to allow her to bring messages of hope to others in need. Judy has never believed that death is the end. “As I was writing the book, I started to feel at peace within myself,” stated Judy. “I would hear Charlie telling me in my mind what he went through with school bullying, depression, struggle with self image – I could write for hours not ever glancing at the clock. Charlie’s character in ‘Beyond Life’ is Feshy, the hero who stands his ground against all odds, and tries to rebuild his family elders’ relationships.” Issues like bullying, depression and self image are heavy topics for young minds. Judy’s treatment of these subjects leads children and parents gently to a singular and SDFSDF conclusion. Regardless of any challenge we must face, our family will always be with us, our faith will always sustain us and, given just a bit of courage, nothing is impossible.
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