May They Always Live Through You

 I hear it quite often asked of me, “How Do I Live Without Them since They’ve Died?”  I want to help you to change that question.

 I ask you to replace this question with, “How can I honor my loved one’s Legacy and Keep them alive within the Hearts of Those who love them since they have Graduated in their Life’s Journey to Heaven?”

  Here is what I mean by this.  Without their Physical presence here with you after they pass, we tend to feel as though they are no longer with us.  This is true in the physical sense.  But, what about their spirit?  You see, I believe that the spirit is Eternal.  There is never a moment that our Spirit is affected by our physical passing. I want to try to help you to find ways to live with them since they have passed to Heaven.

   We spend our physical life sharing love.  We spend our physical life creating traditions or following the traditions created by those before us.  We spend our physical lives creating our own Legacy that will be remembered by those who came after us.  As we share our love, traditions, and Legacy within this physical life, we leave our “Finger Print” upon this world.  It is a fingerprint that could never be erased, for we absolutely existed in the Physical sense and more importantly, we still exist in the Spirit Sense in Heaven.  So, when we pass, we have the ability to live on in the traditions, and the Hearts of those who love us.  We also have the ability to see and hear all that our family and loved ones are doing within their life since we have passed.  

  I am going to simply give you some choices here and hopefully they will be helpful.  If they do not resonate with you, then simply pass them by.

    When your loved one passes and the Holidays come around, What do you do?  Do you close yourself off and cry in your room for them all alone the entire day because celebrating without them would be too difficult to even think of?  Or, do you become the Matriarch for the family and ask each person in the family to write their favorite memory down on paper of your loved one who has passed?  You take these memories and place them in a beautiful Jar that you decorated and you call it your Memory Jar.  As you spend your Holidays from this day forward and the family gathers around, each Holiday, you pull one memory from the Jar and read it as a group to reminisce about your loved one who passed so that you are including them in your holidays?  The choice is yours and only you can decide the answer.

  When your loved one’s Birthday comes around and you are missing them dearly, do you close yourself off from those who love you and let this day devastate you to the point that you can hardly breathe at the thought of being without them?  Or, do you go out and get a  cupcakes? Perhaps even balloons?  Maybe invite some loved ones over in honor of your loved one who passed and ask each of them to bring a toy wrapped in wrapping paper?  Now, take the cupcakes, balloons, and the toys wrapped in paper to a Children’s Hospital and give them to the children there who are fighting the fight of their life and perhaps in the name of your loved one in Heaven, you will make a difference in the life of a child in need.

  Do you stop working and stay indoors most days since they passed and begin to lose most of the things you worked so hard in life for?  Or, do you perhaps go back to school or chase that dream job you have always wanted because you want to make your loved ones in Heaven proud?

  I am sure that I could list a million different scenarios here, but, this is where I leave it up to you to created beautiful scenarios that fit within your family dynamic.  For it is you that will create the traditions of keeping your loved ones alive in the hearts of others.  I encourage you to find an item that you can carry with you each day that makes you feel as though you are honoring your loved one and carrying them with you.  Whatever that item is, I want you to feel as though your loved one is at your side in all that you do.  I assure you that as they spend time in Heaven with God, they also have the ability to see all that you do in life and that includes how you honor them.   If you carry them with you, weather it is with this item, or within memories that no one could ever take away, or simply within your heart and perhaps you give a silent I Love You to them in your head as you do something that reminds you of them, then you will not feel as though you are living without them.

  I know that nothing could ever replace the physical presence of a loved one here.  But, if we can learn to place our focus on carrying them with us, rather than leaving them behind, then perhaps it will make this difficult thing that we call Grief much easier for us.  If your love could have saved them, they simply would have lived forever.  If it were up to us, they would still be living today.  Those things are simply out of our control.  But, what is within our control is keeping their legacy alive.  Sharing their memories and traditions with our children, friends, and family.

  The day that they passed and the way that they passed is not the reason that we love them so very much.  It does tend to become a large part of our focus.  We sometimes allow the way that they passed to make us feel that their passing is what they were to us.  But, they were so much more than the day and way that they passed.  Of course, it is a good story for them to tell in Heaven with all of the loved ones that they surround themselves with when they get there.  But, their Smile, their love, their traditions, and the very essence of who they are does not reside within that passing.  I am not asking you to never think of their passing again.  But, what I want you to do is this, I want you to create a beautiful box within your mind.  As you create this intricate box, I want you to ensure that the box has a beautiful hinged lid that is very heavy.  I ask that you take any negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions that are associated with your loved one’s passing and I want you to place them all within this box.  (Be sure to put anything else negative that you are carrying within this box as well since you have it open to do so)  Now, I want you to close the lid to your box.  The lid is Heavy and it will slam shut nicely for you.  On the front of the box lid, there is a hole for a key and you have possession of this beautifully detailed key.  Now, lock the box.  After you lock the box, I want you to place the key within your heart for safe keeping.  Now, pick that box up and hold it for the last time as you hand it to God.  The burden within this box is no longer yours to carry and it will be kept safe for you as you live your life free from the pain that you placed within that box.  I want you now to begin to replace any stray painful thoughts that may come to you from this moment forward with beautiful memories of how they lived. 

  I have one final exercise that I will leave with you as well.  I want you to picture a beautiful White Light coming down upon you from above your head.  I want you to imagine this light pouring into the top of your Head and down your neck.  I want you to feel this light as it goes throughout your arms to your fingers and down our torso.  The light pours through your legs and feet and out of your body to surround you in a ball of beautiful white light.  As you feel this light throughout your mind, body, and soul, I want you to ask God to Please remove all negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions that are within your body.  I want you to also ask god to remove any negative thoughts, feelings, or emotions that have been sent to you by anyone that you may know or not know.  I want you to ask that all of these negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions be pulled down by Beautiful Mother Earth and Recycled into Pure Love to be put back into the Earth.   (Please find a way to include this in your daily routine and you will feel the beautiful change each time you do it)

  May each of you find help and healing within this article.  May you share the legacy of your loved ones in Heaven with all of those who surround you in life.  May you find peace and happiness in your life once again as you include them in all that you do.  Have a Blessed Day.