The More We Know About Heaven, The More Love We May Carry With Our Losses

There isn’t one thing that I could say that would ease your pain that you carry because the physical presence of your loved one who has Graduated to Heaven is no longer here.  You miss their smile, their touch, their physical presence of love.  You miss what could have been within your future with them.  You may miss the opportunities you had when they were here that you didn’t take with them.  I’m sure I couldn’t begin to list all of the things that you miss about your loved ones in Heaven.  I can’t help that you miss those things, because your life here as you know it is forever changed by their passing.

  What I can help you with is knowledge, understanding, and recognition to help you on your grieving path.  You see, your loved one that joined you on this journey in life is a soul that your has known for an eternity before this lifetime.  You and your loved one have spent more “Time” together in that Eternity than you could even begin to fathom.  Your bond with one another is bright, strong, and unbreakable.   There isn’t a soul in this universe that could separate your bond of love with one another.  That bond can also never be broken simply by one of you graduating to Heaven before the other in life.  You will know this love that you share in life long after your physical life is through.  Actually, the love that you know in the life after this with them is much stronger than you could ever begin to imagine.   If you take all of the love you have felt for one another and multiply it by infinity, you may begin to understand the strength of love in Heaven.

  You and your loved one wrote this life together long before you came here to live it.  Because there are so many different scenarios of relationships you may have had with one another, Parent and Child, Husband and Wife,  Siblings, Friends, I truly won’t be able to touch upon each individual journey, but what I can touch on is Spirit.   Your spirits came to live this life for the amazing growth that you intended for your souls.  There is a saying, “If life were easy, what would we learn from it?”  That saying couldn’t be more true for each of us.  You see, we already come from a place that is perfect.  There are no negative thoughts, feelings, or emotions in Heaven.  There is no pain or anger or struggle as we live in God’s pure light in Heaven.  If we wanted to continue to bask in that amazing light and stay in Heaven, the choice is ours to do so.  Many spirits never incarnate to live even one life, let alone many.  Then there are those of us who have an insatiable yearning for growth and learning.  We plan these lives in a place where the love and memory of Heaven is stripped from us upon arrival and it is up to us to find that love in this difficult world through our journeys.  You will have highs in your path and unmistakable lows as well along your way.  There will be moments you wish you could live again because you aren’t proud of them.  There will be moments you long to live again because they felt so amazing.  But, in your journeys, there will also be tragedy.  Why tragedy?  Because tragedy is impossible in Heaven.  It is the one thing that you grow more from than anything else in this universe.  Tragedy brings more strength into your path that you ever dreamed that you could carry.  “Wait??!! I am supposed to live through this crap??!!”  Not only are you living through it intentionally, you planned it with your family long before this journey began.  I know that statement just made some of you angry at me, but the only thing that I can be in educating you so that you have a better understanding, is HONEST.  I can sugar coat it like most people would, but as I began this journey, I decided that enough people sugar coat things and the only way to truly heal someone is through honesty.   I know you look at the tragedy of your loss of your loved one as the most devastating thing you have even fathomed going through and you are right, it is.  Whether it was an illness, suicide, accident, murder, the outcome is still the same and not one of these passings is any more or less important than the other.  For us, it becomes a devastating story of how our life is forever changed by the passing of a loved one.  I can tell you that in Heaven, there is a completely different side to their passings. I want you to take a step outside of your human body for a moment and join me in spirit. Now, look at yourself with me for just a moment if you will.  Before your loved one passed, life was amazing, or at least more amazing than when they passed on a human level.  Things were different when they were still here, as your days were filled with their love and the peace of having them at your side.  Now, I want to remind you that you have that love and peace in Heaven.  I want you to be extremely proud of yourself for finding those feelings of love and peace here on Earth because as I said before, that is not easy to do in a world that is full of so much negativity that our spirits have never experienced before.  I want you to look at their passing with me from a place of spirit as well.  You see, their passing has blessed your path with more strength and love than you ever knew it was possible to carry in this world.  THAT strength and love is a Gift that they left for you in this world before they journey’d home to Heaven.  I know that when you step back into your human body in a moment that Strength and Love will feel like a burden again, so heavy that you aren’t sure you can carry it.  When it gets to be so heavy, I want you to take a step back to spirit for a moment again and allow yourself to feel pride for the strength you are receiving in this world.  Not everyone writes paths that are so difficult and you should be in awe of your very own strength, because, I can tell you that I am.   When your loved one arrives in heaven, that tragic event that brought about their passing becomes such a cool story of how they arrived in Heaven.  It is the essence of them and part of the legacy they left behind.  I know that when we look at it from our human eyes, we don’t see anything cool about it at all.  But, you must remember that no matter what these human bodies endure in this life time, our SPIRITS ARE ALWAYS UNTOUCHED as our spirits are made of God’s pure love and light and that is unbreakable.   I use the analogy at times to make it more understandable that when we arrive in Heaven, it is much like when convicts are sitting around in a jail cell saying “How’d you get here man?”.  I like to picture our loved ones sliding into Heaven sideways sometimes with their pinkys up in the air screaming Yeee Hawwww as they arrive with their cool stories to tell.  Some of them have stories of how they battled cancer.  Others may arrive with a story of being murdered with all of the details that make the other spirits around them drop their spiritual jaws.  Some may have lived short lives in which they lived those lives to bless their family with strength through their passing.  Some may have lived long lives and passed mid step in their home before they arrived in Heaven with their story.  Whatever their story, it is theirs and you are blessed that they shared part of that life story with you.   If you were there for a tragedy, I want you to know that in their passing, their spirit couldn’t have imagined anyone more amazing to spend their final moments with than you.  You see, I see blessings in even the most difficult situations when I look through the eyes of spirit.  If you were not there when a loved one passed, it is because they did it in their own way and you are meant to remember them for how they lived in this life.   So, if you are carrying guilt for not being there, simply put it down.  You would have been there if you could have and they know that.

  When your loved one passes, they move back into the perfect and amazing light if God in Heaven.  They are instantly filled with love as they rejoin family and friends that they met in this lifetime and long before this lifetime as well. They see you from Heaven for Heaven is all around you here on Earth.  Heaven is only 3 feet off of our floor.  Yes, 3 feet.  So, look down where your feet are and go up 3 feet from there and that is where our loved ones feet walk, or glide, in Heaven.  It is why when someone says that they saw their Mom in spirit and she floated into the room…. Mom wasn’t floating above our floor, she was walking on hers.   Because heaven is so close to us, they see us from Heaven.  They hear your words and your silent thoughts to them as well.  They see how you honor them.  They comfort you when you cry. They encourage you to live life to it’s fullest as they are right here at your side.  People often ask me if they are happy in Heaven?  I say that it is us that aren’t happy because of all that we have endured in this life, but They Are Happy in Heaven.

  I hope this has brought some peace and comfort into your day.  I pray it has answered some of your difficult questions when it comes to the “Loss” of a loved one.  You see, I will never use the word “Died” or “Dead”, because though their bodies couldn’t carry in in this physical life, their spirits are Eternal and never for a moment “Died”.  Carry them with you in all that you do.   Look for the amazing signs that they surround you with from Heaven.  Know that when you see those signs and your thoughts go to your loved ones in Heaven that those signs are truly from them and don’t let your conscious mind tell you any different.  Your loved ones are limitless when it comes to sending those signs.  Have faith that this will all make perfect sense some day.  May your joys be fulfilled, your dreams be blessed by visits with your loved ones in Heaven, and your strength help you to reach heights you never knew you could reach in life.