My Letter to Patty

My dear wife Patty,

What did we do to deserve it? Our sin was to fall in love with each other. Didn't we deserve to live happily? We married because we loved. It wasn't just a passing thing. We made our marriage work through our differences. Yes, we had some but we didn't give up on each other. When all was said and done, neither of us would want to leave following a disagreement.

You were a fighter and very courageous. I was amazed at your strength. We made trips to the hospital, doctor and radiology as often as required. A cursed woman were you, hanging on with all your strength. To top it all the shingles settled onto your back and side. Finally the cancer metastasized to your liver. It signaled the end for you, my lovely wife. What else could have happened to you? Why did you have to suffer so much? It seems that you were born under an evil star.

You were unappreciatively used for your intelligence and work ethics. You had a keen sense of propriety. A bright woman who knew how to manage money. But you never got the respect you deserved from any of them. You reared and protected your two children while working hard every day of your life to provide for them. They are in as much pain as I. You suffered throughout your whole life. You passed away  on March 14th 2015. My life has since then changed forever.

This was your penance for being a good mother and a good wife to me. My penance is to suffer in grief at losing the most precious love I've ever had. What in the world did we do so bad  but love each other that we should deserve this end? No one can take your place. I will love you until I die. Then I will search for you in heaven because that is where I should find you.

Your devoted husband,

Dominick

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Retired Software Engineer and Musician. Recently widowed.

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