Today Let's Release The Guilt and Replace It With Love

I feel that there are some of you that need to release the guilt you carry. It is very common as we are working through a journey in Grief to add more grief to our own path all on our own. Today is the day that you are going to let go of that extra pain or guilt as it is no longer yours to carry. 

  When a loved one passes, one of the most difficult parts about their passing is.... Their passing. How they passed may vary, but for some reason,  though their passing was completely out of our control,  we try to take responsibility for it. Perhaps they were sick and we did all that was within our control, but we punish ourselves saying we should have done more. Maybe they had Alzheimer's or dementia and they began to lose their temper at times and you had a few difficult days, it is normal for us to forget in difficult moments that our loved ones truly don't mean to be this way, so let it go. When a loved one has passed before we get to them, we are truly not meant to be there a moment sooner than we were because they chose to make their beautiful transition to heaven without leaving behind the memories of their final breath for you.   When they pass before you arrive,  you are meant to remember the legacy they left behind and the love that they filled your lives with and it is more than okay that you didn't make it because that is how they intended for it to be. Perhaps we were there to witness the passing of a loved one and we truly can't shake that we couldn't have done more for them. I want you to know that they chose you to spend their final moments with purely out of love for you because they couldn't have imagined spending those final moments with anyone else in this world.

  I suppose that there are so many scenarios that it would be difficult to list them all, but today, we are letting go....

  Let go of the guilt that your loved one in Heaven Never Gifted You! They Gifted you with Love and Memories. They Gifted you with Traditions and Strength. They surely never intended for you to start blaming yourself for things out of your control on their account! When you begin to think of the could haves and should haves, I want you to scream in your head, STOP!!!!!! Now, I want you to picture a chalk board in your mind with all of those Could Haves and Should Haves written on it. Okay folks, this is where the fun begins.... Get out your Mental Eraser and start erasing that chalk board. Remove all of the what ifs and the I can'ts from your board while you're at it. Now, I want you to visually write one word on that chalk board ...... LOVE...... 

  Love is the only memory,  legacy, and feeling from this day forward that is allowed within our space for our Loved Ones in Heaven. They know how much we love them even if we didn't get to say it one last time in life for they love us just the same. They hear you now,  so speak to them. They see you still, so make them proud. But, today we let go of the pain, to make more room for LOVE.