What Is It That Lingers For You?

  What is it that lingers for you?  Is it guilt, anger, and frustration?  Do you feel guilty because you should have done more in the life of the one you lost?  Are you angry because they left you too soon?  Are you frustrated because no one in the world around you understands your pain?  Now, I’m going to ask you WHY does this Linger for you?  At this point you will tell me that it isn’t a choice and your life is hard and your loss is deep and it lingers because it is out of your control…….

  What is it that lingers for you?  Is it Love, Memories, and Traditions?   Is it pure and unconditional love for the one that you lost but chose to carry with you?  Is it Beautiful Memories of days that you shared in life together?  Do you allow the traditions they instilled within you to drive you to share those same traditions with others you love?  This is the point where you tell me that you love and miss them, but, you are living in their honor and they live through you…..

  What is it that lingers for you?  What you allow within your life’s path, is truly a choice.  If you decide to stay in bed each and every day and push away the ones you love as you focus on your tears, then you may find yourself alone.  A lonely path in grief is awfully lonely. I am by no means saying you shouldn’t cry.  I say let the tears flow and as they flow, imagine them carrying the pain out of your body, leaving you with love and sweet memories for your loved one in Heaven. You may decide to celebrate the life of your loved one in Heaven.  Invite the loved ones around you in life to join you as you find ways to celebrate the life of your loved one in Heaven . Can you carry them with you in all that you do so that you don’t feel as though you are living without them? 

  What lingers for you?  You see, what lingers for you can be changed by you.  You have the ability and strength within you to take the lessons learned in the passing of your loved one and use them to make you Great!  What do I mean?  So, you feel guilty because you should have done more in life for your loved one in Heaven?  Have you used this to ensure that you are more mindful of the loved ones you still have an opportunity to do more for in life?  You are Angry because they left too soon?  Have you used this to propel you into making every moment of every day amazing because any moment could be your last or the last of those around you?  Do you embrace life now and are you mindful of memories you are leaving for others?   Are you frustrated because no one understands your pain?  If so, are you ensuring that you are not causing pain for those around you?  Are you sure that you are there for others that need you to be strong for them?  If what lingers for you was negative and each and every person in this world was mindful to change what lingers to a positive, could you imagine how beautiful this world would be?

  What is it that Lingers For You????  When your eyes open each morning, I want you to recall your favorite memory of your loved one in Heaven.  As your feet hit the floor each morning, I want you to say, “Thank You for this beautiful day that I am about to begin.”  Throughout your day, I want you to make it your focus to simply make 5 people smile.  Take time to honor your loved one in heaven in one thing that you do each day.  As you end your day, I want you to say Thank You for an opportunity for greatness in this world…. Now, rest and repeat…..

  What is it that lingers for you?