Tools for finding hope along the journey: Tell people to say their names
It is always a bit strange to hear people say…”We didn’t want to bring (name) up, we thought we might remind you (or upset you” It is like they think because the tears aren’t flowing that we have forgotten that our love one has died. That when the name is mentioned it all comes flooding back. We can educate people about the reality of what is like for us. The heartache when the person appears to have been forgotten. The tears are what flow inside us all the time, just not always on the outside. Teach others to speak their names, it will help us heal.