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Smile Because It Happened

Smile Because It Happened


When we’re hurting, we’re more vulnerable.

That’s not surprising. Our hearts have been hit, perhaps broken. Our worlds are upside-down. The definition of normal has totally changed. Our emotions are all over the place.

We’re more vulnerable than we realize.


Little things. Life is made up of them.

In fact, the little stuff can be gigantic.



“Normal has disappeared. I don’t know what that is anymore,” Kathy said. 

Grief impacts our thoughts, emotions, physical health, and spiritual well-being. Simply put, it affects everything. Our normal is gone.

No wonder we feel crazy sometimes.

Study on partner bereavement and relationships

On behalf of Alexander Rice, a researcher at the University of Iowa and a widower, I would like to invite you to participate in a study on partner bereavement. Specifically, the study will explore relationships after such a loss.

Dealing with Loss, One "You Should" at a Time

YOU SHOULD READ THIS. (And that should be the last time you should listen to anyone telling you what you should do.)

Dealing with the loss of a loved one is a very personal thing. Listening to others in the wake of that loss can sometimes feel overwhelming. Here’s how you can make it less so.

How to Handle the EXHAUSTION of Grief

Wayne lived out in the country. Walking into his house was like entering a cave. The curtains were drawn, the lights off.

Wayne sat in his recliner, staring at the wall. Neither of us said anything for several minutes.

Finally, Wayne began to shake. His face contorted as if in pain. His eyes were red from lack of sleep.

“I miss her so much,” he stammered.

How to Handle (Good & Bad) Triggers

For me, it’s a Bryan Adams or Collective Soul song. The roar of a super-charged Mustang. A plate full of cheesy potatoes. Fall leaves. A blue suit. His name.

When We Can't Imagine a World Without Them

When someone we love exits, they leave a hole. A large one. 

“She was the most wonderful woman. Words can’t express how much I loved her. She’s gone, and now there’s a hole where my heart was,” Larry said, staring at his wife Darlene’s picture.

“I can’t imagine the world without her. She was my life. What am I supposed to do now? How am I going to go on living?”

Handling the Loneliness of Grief

Loss and loneliness often go together.

“People say they know what I’m going through. No, they don’t. They can’t,” Carter said.

Grief is lonely. No one knows exactly how you feel. It was your relationship and your loss – yours alone.

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