Closure

  

Love goes on after a loved one dies

Since only the body in the grave lies.

 

The bond of love continues on and on…

It is felt in your heart after the beloved is gone.

 

So never tell the bereaved, “have closure” after loss

Forget this word and from your vocabulary cross.

 

Closure is used in deals and for bank accounts

But, love can’t be closed or measured in amounts.

 

Love goes on and has no door,

To lock and choose not to open anymore.

 

And if it is a mother who lost a child like me,

Don’t expect her to have a door with a magic key.

 

For love never dies with one’s own child,

A fact to which some are unfortunately blind.

 

Accept that love goes beyond a child’s death,

Felt by a mother as she takes each breath.

 

So please don’ t ask her to have closure and forget,

This will be the worst advice she can ever get.

 

 

  

About the Author
Randah Hamadeh is a professor in Community Medicine and the Vice Dean for Graduate Studies and Research, College of Medicine and Medical Sciences, Arabian Gulf University, Kingdom of Bahrain. Dr. Hamadeh started writing poetry following the death of her 18-year-old daughter, Samar in a car accident in September 2006. She authored one grief poetry book in English: "Summer Rays: Solace To Bereaved Parents" and three in Arabic: "Samar is with us", "Samar, the sun that does not set", and "Samar—Sunset and Sunrise". Several of her poems were posted on her daughter’s blog (www.samaralansari.com) and the Open to Hope Community website. Her poem “If you had one more day” was published in one of the newsletters of The Compassionate Friends and several of her poems were displayed on personal grief blogs. In addition to the blog that was created in memory of her daughter, Samar Al Ansari, Dr. Hamadeh started a Facebook page in 2010 for Bereaved Arab Families and Friends (http://www.facebook.com/pages/Bereaved-Arab-Families-and-Friends/117862178274455?fref=ts) to provide a venue for bereaved Arab families and friends to get support and comfort wherever they are. Dr. Hamadeh can be contacted by email ([email protected]), Twitter (@UmSamar) and Samar's blog (www.samaralansari.com).
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