Hard Hats and Ugly Crying | The Grief Toolbox

Last week my task was to find some childhood pictures for my daughter who wanted to use them..ughhhh. My biggest "trigger" is pics. But I knew I needed to. Well Miss "Hey, I speaking publicly to people about strength and bravery, and sit and sign books about it all" grabbed her Ipod and went running out of the house "ugly crying"!
I had found pictures of my beautiful gardens, my paintings, my beautiful life before I fell off the cliff. Where the hell did that woman go? Gone! Poof! I "freaked out" with sadness, not about my dead husband, but about the lost me! Then, the wonderful man who entered my life unexpectedly had called me while I was walking... He said "Sweetheart, she has morphed into a stronger woman..a woman who was gifted an opportunity to tell her story, and not afraid to ugly cry".
It's Ok to grieve not only your loved one who is gone, but the changes and the loss of who you were. You are a “work in progress” zone and need to focus on 'WHO YOU WILL BE"...ugly crying is accepted here. Just wear your hard hats.

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A Catherine Capra-Leaf Catherine is a life long resident of Minnesota. She graduated from Mariner High school in White Bear Lake,Mn in 1976, and attended the University of Minnesota: Duluth. She was married in 1979 to Michael Leaf, and has three daughters, Jennifer, Kimberly, and Heather. She has worked in the White Bear lake Public Schools as a paraprofessional for 23 years, working with special education students. In her spare time, she enjoys painting, walking, and her new found love of writing. After the death of her husband, she works diligently at helping others who are experiencing difficult life circumstances to find strength, power, and bravery, is a main focus of her life now. She continues to write stories to inspire and encourage people to find healing in their own lives.

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