Lets Talk About Brightening Challenges In Life And In Grief

If life were easy, what would we learn from it? Challenges come in so many different forms in life. Sometimes they come in the form of a family member who makes us want to pull our hair out no matter how many chances we give them. Challenges can come in the form of Finances. Perhaps your challenges in your life come from the loss of a loved one. Maybe your challenge is in your romantic relationships throughout life. But, each and every one of us has challenges.

No one’s challenges are any more important than yours and your challenges are not any more important than those challenges of others. For some reason, many people tend to make a competition of challenges with others and I suppose my question for that is Why? Each of our challenges is meant for our soul’s growth. My intention for my soul’s growth differs from yours, but that doesn’t make my soul’s growth any more important or less important than yours. We are all here for the same reason in life and that is to learn and grow from the challenges written into our lives for our soul’s growth on this journey.

If you look at the person next to you without judgment and instead with pride, then you are doing it right. We aren’t meant to judge those next to us in this life. You are meant to look at those around you and say within your soul, Wow, You are living life just like me and we are doing our best at it. There is no right or wrong way to live your life for in our mistakes comes growth. Some people simply live lives to be lessons of growth for others. Had a crappy relationship that you got out of after being mistreated for years? Look back on the strength you gained in that difficult experience. Did it teach you to honor yourself and your worth in your future? Would you have learned those lessons otherwise? Now, look back on that Ex and Thank them… What??!!! Thank Them??!!! Yep…. Thank them for the lessons of growth they gave you in life because without them, you wouldn’t be the person that you are today. They lived a life in order to challenge you for your growth. You were meant to overcome that challenge. Still living in that challenge today? If so, what can you do to rise above it for your soul’s growth?

Take every lesson you are given in life and use it to make you great. Your lessons or challenges are not meant to defeat you. If you are letting your challenges defeat you, are you doing it wrong? NO! You are Living and living isn’t easy to do. If you walk through this world with defeat, then your challenges are rising above you and holding you down and in that defeat, you are gaining even more growth. May I remind you though that you have the strength within you to rise above defeat. You have the ability to stand on top of your challenges and tell them, Not today challenge, Not today… Today is my day…. The choice is truly yours and there is no wrong choice.

People of all walks of life in your life may feel as though they are weighing you down. For so many reasons that I couldn’t even begin to list them, you may feel as though you are carrying someone through life. You may have an uncontrollable need to “Save Everyone”. (Don’t worry, I have that feeling daily lol) But, what is most important to realize is that you cannot carry others down your path. They have a path to travel and their path may be filled with uncomfortable moments that they are meant to go through and overcome for their growth. If you carry them down your path, then they are not traveling theirs. They will weigh you down, your back will bend, you will become unable to take another step because the weight is too much to bare. Put them down. Ask them to walk their own path. You are not cutting them out of your life forever for they have a choice to make. They can walk a more positive path that will cross with yours some day. They are always welcome to join you on your positive path and walk at your side. You are just making the choice that you will not try to walk at their side upon their negative path and you will no longer carry them upon your own path. For now, they need to walk their path. If they don’t feel their own discomfort on their own path, then how on Earth will they want to work harder on their own to get out of a place of discomfort? If everyone is doing everything for them, how on Earth will they learn to do anything on their own? What would happen to them when you pass, if you are keeping them from their lessons of independence now? What is carrying them doing to you on your path? Don’t forget to HONOR YOUR WORTH.

If you are working through the passing of a loved one, I want you to know that there is no right or wrong way to work through your grief. Those that make demands upon your grief, truly don’t understand what it is to lose someone close to them. It is a lesson we won’t wish upon them. They may make mistakes in those demands simply because they care. They want to see you happy again and perhaps a couple of slaps across the face and a snap out of it is their way? I don’t want you to be angry at them for if they didn’t care, they wouldn’t have said a word at all. They simply don’t know what else to say or do, and so, Thank them. Thank Them??!! Yep, you don’t want to push away those that love and care about you even if they perhaps go about it “Wrong”. Thank them for loving you and let them know that you are working on your grief in the best way that you know how. I try to teach people in their grief to Honor their Loved ones in Heaven and include them in all that you do. The reason this is my focus, is because I know how much brighter a path in grief can be when we begin to feel the love of Heaven around us as we begin to acknowledge it. I know that the signs that Heaven sends are all around us and within our grief, through our tears, those signs may be harder to see and recognize. So, I try to dry your tears with love so that you can see again that there is beauty in this world. That your loved ones are all around you. Your loved ones in Heaven see and hear you always. Does that mean that everyone has to like my approach? NO. There is no right or wrong way to work through your grief. You will make it through in the best way that you know how. It is a challenge you didn’t expect. It is a challenge in your life that you are growing from more than you ever knew that you could . They blessed you with more strength in their passing than you ever dreamed you could carry. They blessed you with more Love in their passing than you ever knew you could hold.

We can’t begin to list all of the challenges here in this post that we go through from day to day. But, I want to leave you with this. You are beautifully perfect. You are Made of God and because you are made of God, you are capable of creating Miracles in life. You are stronger than any challenge in your path. You are Brighter than any darkness that may come your way. Always remember to honor yourself and your worth. In honoring you, you are also honoring those around you by being the best version of you that you can be. You are doing it right. You aren’t capable of doing it wrong. Just Be and trust that your life will all make sense some day. For now, Live, Laugh, Love, Be Crazy, Smile, and Carry On…….