Suicide: Dealing With Anger And Guilt

Losing someone is hard under any circumstances. Losing someone you love to suicide is perhaps the worse form of grief to experience. Not only do you have to deal with the reality of loss, you need to cope with the realization the loved one is the source of the pain. One of the biggest questions is how do you cope with this.

Emotions become jumbled early on and many people confess to struggling with conflicting emotions. On the one hand they are saddened by the loss, but at the same time they experience anger towards the deceased. It is important to accept this fact. It is normal to feel these conflicting emotions, but also you do have the right to be angry. The deceased made a choice that is having impact in your life, and you have the responsibility to try to piece things together again.

Being angry does not mean you do not love the deceased. You should never equate your anger with a shortage of love. You can love the person dearly, and still be angry for what they did. Be honest with yourself. Tell yourself that you do love him or her, but you do not like the choice he or she made. You could also experience guilt after expressing your anger towards the deceased. Do not feel guilty for your anger. Accept your anger and work through it. You will probably realize that your anger is not really directed towards the deceased but rather towards the deed they did. Focusing on the deed, and not the person will also help you keep things in perspective.

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