There is no missing that Mother’s Day is approaching the stores are filled with gift ideas, commercials are promoting flower sales, even the restaurants advertise special Mother’s Day brunch. It is an American holiday widely celebrated. Sadly, for some Mother’s Day is being anticipated with dread. For mothers who have lost a child the day is always missing someone.
Throughout the years, the Five stages of Loss and Grief have been well written about and discussed. In this essay, I elaborate my personal views that extend on the Bargaining stage of grief. Bargaining is the normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability after a death of a loved one that is often associated with the need to regain control. Some common thoughts associated with bargaining can be "if only we had sought medical attention sooner," "If only we had gotten a second opinion from another doctor," "If only I had tried to be a there more."
I have been on this journey
For longer than I like
I remember you now
With fewer tears and
More smiles and laughs
But every now and then
It hits me
I won’t ever see you face
And the pain feels the same
As it did that first day
When we're grieving, sometimes all we want is a fresh start. You can't undo your loss, so the next best thing is to move forward. Spring is a time of "Rebirth." It's the perfect time of year to get a fresh start on anything. This spring, take advantage of the changing season to help you through your grieving process.
Very few things are as painful or devastating as the loss of a child. There is no love like the love you feel for your child, so to lose that child is nothing short of a tragedy. Then what do you do for someone who has experienced such a loss? It seems like nothing you say or do is substantial enough to help. The parents don't expect you to undo their loss, they know you can't. But they do need you to be there for them and to support them in their time of sorrow. Here are 4 ways you can help console someone who is grieving the loss of a child.
The Bobby Resciniti Healing Hearts Foundation hosted it’s 3rd annual Angel Walk on Sunday, April 29!
Contrary to some peoples’ ideas about grief it is possible to experience joy at life even in the midst of grieving. Grief is not a static emotion but rather it ebbs and flows just like the ocean. At some moments in our lives our grief is powerful like huge crashing waves upon rocks during a storm. At other moments our grief is softer and gentler, like a baby wave caressing the sand on a quiet day. It is when our grief is like this that we can start to find joy in our lives once again.
Grief can be a lonely experience and there is nothing lonelier than when those around you seem to start moving on with their lives and you seem to be the only person left grieving.
When faced with this it’s important to make the distinction between grieving and mourning. Grieving is something that we do internally. Mourning is the outward display of how we react to our loss. Just because someone is not mourning doesn’t mean they are not grieving.
There are many different reasons and purposes for telling our grief story. Telling our story is important for so many reasons but understanding why we are telling it helps us to formulate the story for that purpose and to get the reaction that we wanting from telling it. There are three basic reasons that we tell a story and as we move through grief these reasons may change.
1. We tell our story to understand that it is real
