Do you do something special with your Christmas cards to include your baby? I have seen cards with baby angels on them, and I know some people include their baby's name in their signature or stamp it with a special stamp (a little star or heart) to include their child. What do you do?
As a counsellor, coach or other therapist we are not exempt from needing help. We all do face life issues that we cannot easily deal with ourselves and need an outside expert to support us. Even though we work in the field of supporting people it does not mean we can easily fix all our own problems.
Being with people who are grieving is not an easy place to be in. Many of us want to fix things and offer well-meant solutions, space-fillers or cliches. This cannot be resolved or fixed. The process of grief has no set timeline or deadline, it is always ever a starting point with a line that might fade with time but there is most likely no end point.
Grief is a normal human reaction to a loss from our life and we usually feel this powerful emotion following an event of significant magnitude such as the death of a loved one. In this post, I would like to propose an adjustment to the theory of grief and grieving first proposed in her book, Death and Dying, by Elisabeth K?bler-Ross.
The holidays are a very difficult time of the year for those experiencing grief. The absence of our loved ones makes it easy to focus on what is missing in our lives. But though the holidays can be a time where we hurt the most, it can also be the time where we can give the most to others and heal ourselves in the process.
Holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and special days always add an extra sense of remembering after a loss. I experienced the loss of my sweetheart last month. To add to that, it's my father's birthday, and next month will be the anniversary of his death.
Fear of Loss After the death of my son Noah I was stricken with the fear of losing another family member, particularly my wife. Whenever we were not together, I would worry that something bad was going to happen to her. The thought of someone else in my life dying caused me great anxiety because [...]
