Mother's Day Is Different Now

When we have lost someone we love so very much there are many dates on the calendar which now impact us in ways that they never did before. We know and remember the significant times when our life stood still and those significant days of the year where our loss can bubble up and seem magnified once more. There is one coming up.....it's Mother's Day.

You may be a mother whose child is no longer here physically to say "Happy Mother's Day Mum" or you may be without your own mother this year or a family member who meant as much as a mother can to you. Either way whilst many things may ease your hurt a little the void remains, there nestled in the deep recesses of your heart. It hurts so greatly at times that sometimes there are no words, can never be the words that can ever express how you feel without them being here to sprinkle your life with love.

That deep love, that deep connection you have for them never dies. That is something you can never lose. Think of the love that shines in your heart, just for them. Your love and your bond with them will last forever. It is something which is yours to cherish and to hold forever. Their invisible presence wraps golden threads around your heart and within your soul. That is your forever love, your constant, the gift of your own true love.

As this Mother's Day approaches that is what you have and will always have. Even though you cannot hug them tight and hold them you can hold the love you shared in your heart, as you always have and always will. That is yours to keep when the days become dark with longing. That is yours to keep when you think you cannot go on. That is yours to keep when you clasp a memory from heaven and hold it tight.

Let your love for them strengthen you throughout this day and the others which are to follow. As a mother and as a daughter or a son you have great love and great strength even though it may often seem as if the latter has deserted you. It hasn't. It is not the strength that comes from denying your great sorrow and pain but the strength that comes from being you in your heartache and feeling all you feel for your beloved. This is the strength that continues to keep you keeping on. Those very same qualities passed down through a generation of mothers, including yours. It is their legacy to you - your gift to keep.

So on this Mother's Day when your heart may break and tears may fall, remember the gifts you do have residing deep within you. Remember your strength and remember your great love.....their eternal love and light will shine bright within you always.

Maureen Hunter is the founder of Esdeer. She is an inspirational writer and grief steps mentor giving comfort and hope to many. She is passionate about helping people to step through grief and build a new and different life after loss, one that their loved one is always part of.