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As a counsellor, coach or other therapist we are not exempt from needing help. We all do face life issues that we cannot easily deal with ourselves and need an outside expert to support us. Even though we work in the field of supporting people it does not mean we can easily fix all our own problems.

Being with people who are grieving is not an easy place to be in. Many of us want to fix things and offer well-meant solutions, space-fillers or cliches. This cannot be resolved or fixed. The process of grief has no set timeline or deadline, it is always ever a starting point with a line that might fade with time but there is most likely no end point.

Grief is a normal human reaction to a loss from our life and we usually feel this powerful emotion following an event of significant magnitude such as the death of a loved one. In this post, I would like to propose an adjustment to the theory of grief and grieving first proposed in her book, Death and Dying, by Elisabeth K?bler-Ross.

The holidays are a very difficult time of the year for those experiencing grief. The absence of our loved ones makes it easy to focus on what is missing in our lives. But though the holidays can be a time where we hurt the most, it can also be the time where we can give the most to others and heal ourselves in the process.

Holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and special days always add an extra sense of remembering after a loss. I experienced the loss of my sweetheart last month. To add to that, it's my father's birthday, and next month will be the anniversary of his death.

When a parent loses a child, there are tough decisions to be made, including where the ashes of that child should rest. This is the story of Damon, 35 year old Major in the air force, with 3 children, who drowns at his father's wedding and is taken to a final resting place in a country he called 'home'.