My Dreams are Gone
Kids dream. For them, anything is possible.
Then we grow up.
We take some hits. Life doesn’t go the way we planned. We lose – relationships, jobs, opportunities, and people.
The dreams morph over time. Then, well, they mostly disappear. And our broken hearts settle for what is.
When people die, some dreams do too
“My dreams are gone. Anything I thought I wanted to do disappeared. The goals are no more. It was all tied to him,” Renee said.
“I miss the future with him. It's not there anymore,” she shared.
When Renee’s husband died, her future was turned upside down.
Anything they had planned together was erased. Her dreams, hopes, and goals died with him.
Loss is like an earthquake
You know this if you’ve lost someone close: the earthquake hits, and then the aftershocks continue. Collateral damage starts to appear, and can continue to surface for months, even years later.
Then you’re faced with not only the pain, but massive rebuilding. Don’t get in a hurry. This isn’t a sprint. As you focus on grieving well, you’ll be able later to handle the challenges of remaking the future – one step at a time.
An affirmation for today:
“My dreams are shattered. I’ll grieve well,
and retool the future when it’s time.”
Grieving takes great courage. You are braver than you realize.
Adapted from the bestseller Heartbroken: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse (USA Best Book Awards Finalist, National Indie Excellence Book Award Finalist).
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