Please Be Patient, I'm Grieving

 Grief hurts.  It’s tough to go through, and painful to watch.

One or both of the following is true about almost all of us almost all of the time:

• Loss has hit someone you know. You sense their pain. You want to help, but don’t know how. Perhaps you’re concerned, even scared you will do or say the wrong thing and make matters worse. What can you do?

• You’re grieving. It’s like you’ve been hit by a bus and are lying in the middle of the road. You need help, but you don’t know how to ask, whom to ask, or even what you need. You hunger for others to be with you and understand what you’re going through. What can you do?

Please Be Patient, I’m Grieving was designed to meet these needs. It’s written to help you better understand grief and discover what you can do – for others and for yourself.

The book will give you a look at the grieving heart – its thoughts, emotions, and struggles. If you’re wanting to help someone who’s grieving, you’ll get a glimpse of what’s going on inside and be better able to support them. In fact, you will discover nine ways to care for someone who’s grieving and make more of a difference than you ever dreamed possible.

If you’re in the midst of loss, you’ll see yourself as you read, and be encouraged you aren’t as weird or crazy as you may have thought.

Why I wrote this book         

Please Be Patient, I’m Grieving was written by request. Over the years, I’ve been asked repeatedly by those enduring loss to produce a resource for those closest to them. I’ve been told, “Please help them understand us!”

Hurting people need to feel loved – and that means being heard and understood. If we pull away, for whatever reason, they feel ignored, rejected, abandoned, even invisible. As months go by, they sense their lives and relationships changing. The initial loss was just the beginning. Now they’re experiencing other losses too. The weight of the accumulating grief can be crushing.

We’re all designed for relationship. When our hearts are broken, we need people in our lives we can trust.

This book is about becoming those kind of people – loving, understanding, and trustworthy companions willing to walk with others through hardship and pain.

What You Will Learn from this Book

In Please Be Patient, I’m Grieving, you will learn…

• How your grieving friend, relative, or co-worker might be feeling and thinking.
• How to discover what they need and don’t need.
• What to say and not to say.
• How to be a help and not a hindrance in their grieving process.
• How the grief and pain of others can affect you.
• How helping others stimulates your own growth and healing.
• How the skills discussed here can enhance all your relationships. 

This book can help you develop a priceless ability– how to hear the heart of someone who’s hurting. The benefits for them, and for you, can be staggering. 

All this will be summarized into nine key principles. Apply these, and you will be better able to care for and support people who are hurting and grieving. You will also have more impact than you thought possible.

Take the plunge!

The grieving people in your sphere need you. This loss-ridden, hurting world needs you. You are more important than you know.

Thank you for being willing to take the plunge. The ripple effects could be huge.  

Let the journey into the grieving heart begin.

Adapted from the newly released bestseller, Please Be Patient, I’m Grieving: How to Care For and Support the Grieving Heart.   To watch the a short video from the author, click here.