When Everything Reminds Us

When we’re missing someone, we tend to bump into them everywhere.

“What do I miss?” Andrea asked. “Everything! I miss everything. Everything reminds me of Aaron.”

“It doesn’t matter where I go or what I do, he’s gone. And it keeps hitting me in the face over and over and over again,” she continued.

Reminders are everywhere. Fragrances, places, songs, people – the list goes on and on. Anything can trigger a memory.

You’re walking through an emotional mine field every moment, not knowing where the next grief hit is going to come from. To say this is challenging is a gross understatement.

This is incredibly exhausting. But it also trumpets how special your loved one was and is to you. She or he is everywhere. Of course. You were one with them.

Walk carefully. Breathe deeply. One mine at a time.

Here’s a grief affirmation:

“Everything seems to remind me of you. I’ll learn to treasure each memory.”

Yes, reminders are everywhere. This can be difficult, but as you grieve you’ll find yourself treasuring the memories more and more.


Adapted from the Bestseller Heartbroken: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse (USA Best Book Awards Finalist, National Indie Excellence Award Finalist).

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About the Author

Gary Roe is an author, speaker, and chaplain with Hospice Brazos Valley. He is the author of the award-winning bestsellers Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child, Please Be Patient, I'm Grieving, HEARTBROKEN: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse, and Surviving the Holidays without You and the co-author (with New York Times Bestseller Cecil Murphey) of Saying Goodbye: Facing the Loss of a Loved One. Visit him at www.garyroe.com.

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