My Forever Memories Grief Blog- tragedy, reality and eternity



Dear friends.

                When we hear of a death or a group of deaths, we think of it as a tragedy. It is tragic to us because we are left behind. It is especially tragic to us if we love or are close to the one who died. Praise God! Death is not the end!


                Those of us who have loved someone, and then had them pass from this life, have to struggle with the tragedy of death. Death was not God’s perfect design. It was His will to have us live in the Garden with Him forever and ever. He gave man the freedom to choose and mankind chose to not trust God’s perfect will but to disobey. Ever since that first sin, we have all been born with sin as part of our DNA and there is a separation between us and God’s perfect presence. Ever since then, there has been death. (But Praise God! He overcame the tragedy and finality of death by sending His own sinless Son Jesus Christ to willingly die on the cross, once and for all, for our collective and personal past, present and future sin! God Almighty turned the greatest tragedy of all time into the greatest victory of all time…so of course, God sees death differently than we do. Yet He knows us well enough to understand our tragic viewpoint and weeps with those of us left behind.)



                Anyone who has been with someone when they died knows full well the reality of death. Our loved ones are here one moment and in the blinking of an eyes, they are gone. Their empty body may be in front of us, but the person (the essence of who they really are) is gone. It is more than we can comprehend. Where did they go? Will I ever see them again? How can I go on without them? How can God let this happen? These are all questions we wrestle with as we deal with the reality of learning how to live here—when they have gone on. Death might have come from a tragic accident, long or sudden illness, suicide, war, murder, old age, or in the womb. It is a painful time to go through, but when we put our faith in the reality of what Jesus accomplished on the cross and in His resurrection, it becomes easier to finish our own race with our eyes on the finish line. Our real life is found in the Lord Jesus Christ.



                This earthly life is short and temporary (no matter how long it is lived). When we accept God’s loving grace and the gift of His Son dying for our sins and being raised in eternal life, we also are willing to die to our old earthly lives and be raised with Jesus as new creations into eternal life with our Heavenly Father. Nothing can ever take that life away. It begins the moment we believe that Jesus died for us personally so we could live with Him eternally. We may still have to wrestle with the pain of a loved one’s passing, but we can trust the reality of eternal life through Jesus Christ. The true tragedy is for those who have not yet believed in the reality and finality of what God has given us through His own Son Jesus Christ—who not only made a way for us to be intimately joined with God but who never ever leaves us.

                I will be praying for you as you struggle with the reality of death and life. I pray you choose LIFE!

Love and prayers,




“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.”    John 3:16-18


“When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: ‘Death has been swallowed up in victory. Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?’”   1 Corinthians 15:54-55


“Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful servants.”   Psalm 116:15


About the Author

My prayer is after you’ve read my writing or  heard me speak you won’t remember too much about me, but you will be drawn closer to the Lord. Yet I know you need to know something of the person whose words you hear or read. May you hear love in my voice…love for you and for our Lord God Almighty, His Son Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit who lives in me.

God has been with me every step of a life filled with rich experiences of ups and downs. My prayer is for something I share to cause others to come closer to Him.  As a prayer cheerleader, I share Prayer Peeks & Prompts to help jump-start others into a deeper prayer life.

My first husband Steve died at the age of 37 after a long traumatic illness, leaving me behind with 4 remarkable children. Later, I married Dwight who was father to three wonderful kids. We blended our families together with the glue of Jesus’ love. My deep love for children extends beyond my ever-growing family to teaching  in early childhood education, Vacation Bible School and Sunday School. Yet I love all ages…

Since Steve died, for over 20 years I offered a Grieve With Hope support group for those who suffer loss (from the death of children, spouses, parents, siblings and friends- as well as other major losses). If you are grieving or pastor those who grieve,  join My Forever Memories grief support group . I am a certified Grief Recovery Specialist who shares the eternal hope found in Jesus Christ. There is a lot of helpful information on grieving through this website.

Besides speaking to many groups over the years, I have taught a weekly Women’s Bible Study as well as a Live With Hope group which reaches young women recovering from substance abuse. These women are all dear to my heart and have been influential in my writing of many women’s Bible Studies.

I have been blessed to write hundreds of articles, devotions, Bible Studies, personal experience stories and prayers for publications such as Lookout, Chicken Soup For The Soul, Standard Publishing, Billy Graham’s Decision Magazine, Women’s Day, Upper Room and many others.

Now you know a little about me…but remember:  It’s NOT about me! It’s all about Him.