We Will Always Miss Them

Missing someone is painful.

Will the hurt ever end?

“I kept waiting for the pain to stop. Some things got easier with time, some didn’t. Right now, there is this deep, dull ache in the recesses of my heart,” Noel confided.

She paused and looked at her hands in her lap.

“I’ll always miss him. Always,” she said.

Noel’s husband Steve had died almost a year earlier from brain cancer. She’s right. She will always miss him.

The missing can so painful. The yearning for your loved one can be intense. Perhaps you wonder when all this will be over.

On some level, the ache in your heart will remain. You won’t feel it as much, or as acutely perhaps, but it’ll be there. When the aroma, place, or song triggers a memory, your heart will groan.

But over time, the ache will not only bring longing, but a smile. Thanksgiving for what your loved one and what you had will replace sadness over losing it.

He or she has an always-place in your heart.

A grief affirmation:

“I’ll always miss you, because you have an always-place in my heart.”

I still miss those I loved who are no longer with me but I find I am grateful for having loved them. The gratitude has finally conquered the loss. – Rita Mae Brown

The missing is painful, but it's a part of love.  

(Adapted from the bestselling Heartbroken: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse, USA Best Book Awards Finalist, National Indie Excellence Award Finalist).