Sigh, this is not a 'feel good piece' about how you should forgive for your own sake. Forgiveness is a tricky bird. You can say you forgive and find out later that deep in your heart, the blame rages on. To be honest, I do not get 'forgive' and set yourself free. For some people, they need to do that. For me, not so much.
Yeah, I found that hard to believe too. Normal is not a word that comes to mind in the world we now live in. Normal was calling or getting messages from Tim, daily. Normal was so many things that have passed beyond me now. With him gone, me, who I was, what I was, what I could of been, were gone. I had become something else, someone I did not know and had no wish to know.
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“This hurts,” Sandy whispered, her face hidden in her hands.
Sandy had just lost her mother. She knew it was coming. She’d known for months. She was well prepared.
Statistics show that after losing someone you love, it takes approximately 14 days for life to get back to normal………………..for everybody but you.
Perhaps this piece is redundant, or at the very least an example of “Preaching to the Choir,” because obviously you are online, looking through at least one grief website for help already. But indulge me, because it has been an amazing revelation to me just how useful the internet can be in a grief journey.
In the early days, the 'what if's' torment us as much as the event itself. We think, rethink, and over think. What if there was some small thing we could have done different that would have changed the out come. It is common now, for us to play this game. But to do so will only make our grief deeper if that is possible. We held in our hands the ability to prevent something and did nothing?
