“Fear Turns to Panic”

Grief is not just emotional or psychological; it is also physical.  It is important to attend to your physical health.  Do not hesitate to consult with a trusted physician. Exercise and try to improve your eating habits.  It will take time to begin to withdraw yourself from the comfort foods that may have become your [...]

Accepting Change Hopefully

The flickering flame and the trickling waterfall captivate and soothe our imaginations demonstrating we are fascinated by change, until it brings hurt. Then change is a pariah; she is to be an outcast, despised for what she brings. That change is something to be avoided. How do we deal with the forced adjustment in change?

Paint Your Holiday the Way You Want It to Be

There is a myth that holiday grief affects only those who have lost a loved one, but the truth is revealed. High expectations for a Norman Rockwell type of holiday with a vision of perfect experiences becomes our goal. If only life could be as we wish it could be. Find ways to dissolve the myths and create livable realities...

Love for the Weary

As I gently quizzed a friend who had lost her 26-year-old son, some four years ago, regarding the journey of her grief process, I asked the specific question: 'What were some of the bigger challenges in adjusting to life without him?' Her response surprised me somewhat. She said that the questions and assertions of some people had hurt and frustrated her. My friend cited two examples...

Christmas Cards

Do you do something special with your Christmas cards to include your baby? I have seen cards with baby angels on them, and I know some people include their baby's name in their signature or stamp it with a special stamp (a little star or heart) to include their child. What do you do?