Here Come the Tears, Again

Someone we love is missing. The world will never be the same. No wonder sadness pervades our hearts.

From the Grieving Heart:

How could you be gone? How could you leave? Why? 

My heart is shocked, stunned, and broken. Perhaps shattered is a better word. I'm in pieces, all over the place. 

And I'm sad. So sad. 

Then again, how could I not be sad? You're gone. I'm not even missing you yet, mainly because I can't believe this is real. I act like you're still here. I wake up and expect to see you. 

Here come the tears again. I feel like I'm crying on the inside too. Tears everywhere. I'm one giant blob of sadness. 

Your absence permeates everything. Everywhere I look, you're not there. And it hurts. 

I feel nauseated. Breathe. I must breathe. Breathe through the tears, through the sadness.

My heart is torn open. I'm spilling out all over everything.

This is awful.

How could we not be sad?

Our heart is our most prized possession. It is the essence of who we are. When we love someone, our heart is fully engaged.

When a love is severed, our hearts are torn. At first, we're stunned and in shock. Then we begin to feel the pain of loss.

We shake our heads in disbelief. Our minds struggle to grasp the unthinkable reality in front of us. Our hearts begin to bleed emotion. A cloud of sadness looms over us.

We become hyper-aware of our loved one's absence. Out of habit and longing, we look for them, but to no avail. The reality that they are gone smacks us again and again and again.

Loss hurts. Our hearts have been sliced open. The pain can be excruciating. The sadness can be maddeningly intense.

Yes, this is awful. Truly awful.

How could we not be sad?

We keep breathing deeply. We give ourselves permission to be sad. We let the grief come. As our love is deep, so will our grief be.

Affirmation:

I give myself permission to be sad. I will let the grief come.  

Adapted from the newly released book, Comfort for Grieving Hearts. To watch a brief video about the book, click here.