Losing a loved one is a shock. Most of us are not really prepared for the full impact of grief. Some people confess the first time they experienced real grief; there was a short period when they thought they lost their minds. The emotions of grief caught them off guard and they could not handle the range of emotions they experienced.
The signs were many, so harsh, so cruel;
He played the game so naturally.
I closed my eyes to fend off the pain,
Until the truth consumed unbearably.
Shattered to dust by words so dreadful,
At last, the charade has ended. T
he path of light or that of darkness,
I was watching a promotional ad on television recently for the show “Intervention” and saw a quote from Ernest Hemingway, which read: “The world breaks everyone, and afterward many are strong at the broken places.” Actually, this quote is a passage from Hemingway’s novel: “A Farewell to Arms.” Hemingway was one of the great American writers of his time, who died in 1961 as a result of suicide.
As my boys and I one year mark of loosing Bob gets closer, we begin to prepare ourselves. How can one prepare for this kind of thing? Loss, it will come to us all. It is the reality that hits you between the eyes like a boulder from nowhere.
Each day that we awaken is a new day to take our lives forward. It is an opportunity to create something new, something fresh. No matter what you have gone thru, no matter how painful, how heart-wrenching, you don't have to be in that situation forever. You do not have to be in pain forever. As dark as things may seem today, your life does not have to be in the darkness forever.
The Journey
8 months ago, we were given the news that would forever change our lives. It was so easy for us to go from the beginning to the end, missing all the steps in between. The biggest one – living.
Suicide Survival
News, searing pain, disbelief, questions, sadness, what if, emptiness, darkness . . .
Promises are the uniquely human way of ordering the future, making it predictable and reliable to the extent that this is humanly possible. ~ Hannah Arendt
