Spouse

Financial issues are naturally stressful. So is loss. Put the two together, and the pressure can be overwhelming and frustrating.

We're hurting. The last thing we need is to be evaluated. Unkind and unhelpful words end up only adding to our burdens.

When loss hits, we feel vulnerable. This is natural and common, but uncomfortable. Life feels shaky, even scary now.

This will cannot be fixed. Those around us, however, will try.  Most are well-intentioned, perhaps, but that doesn't make their words helpful.

When loss hits, life changes. This includes our relationships. So often, the people arond us don't understrand. We can feel rejected, invisible, and alone. 

People are us how we're doing. How are we supposed to answer that one? "I'm fine," is a typical response, even though that might be the opposite of how we feel. 

When we get hit by loss, our entire being feels the shock. We can feel like we're somehow disappearing, like shadows in the night.