Grief is exhausting. It saps your energy, both emotionally and physically. You do not feel capable of even the smallest efforts.
Getting over that initial hump of being active can be tough but it's well worth the effort. Once you start moving, your body and mind will really thank you for it.
Since writing my angel books, I have received so many emails from people who have gone through losses of family members. Almost all of the letters are about how they hope to get through the holidays. It is as if Christmas in light of a loss has become an occasion to merely tolerate--or sleep through--in hopes that it will magically disappear.
Look for opportunities that will help you on your grief journey. When you are ready (and don't rush it), try to find an activity to distract your mind from your loss.
I wish I could travel back in time just to have you hold me once again.
I wish I could travel back in time just to hear your voice again
I wish I could travel back in time just to say I love you
What I wish for and what I have is the difference between a dream and reality
Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley and their guests will present Grief Relief with Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley-Handling Death and the Holidays. This show is dedicated to giving a voice to grief and recovery, and empowering the bereaved.
Many grief counselors and therapists believe that grief is essentially a spiritual journey. This journey involves beliefs, values, and the way we relate to mystery, nature, and the unknown. Since grief transforms the mourner through discovery, new experiences, and successes, their responses are highly individual. So too with our spiritual growth.
There is some truth to the expression “No Pain, No Gain”, and it can apply to many aspects of a life. It has been a little over four years since the death of my wife. My now 16 year old daughter was 12 at the time. The loss of a mother for a girl just entering her teen years can be catastrophic. A child can start acting out in many ways.
The holidays seem to magnify emotions of grief as music, events, even aromas can remind us of the person we are missing. Our family lost two close family members within weeks of the holidays, one right before Thanksgiving and the other two years later on December ninth. I remember thinking it would be nice to just pull the covers over my head and wake up in January.
