3 Ways to Use Spring to Help You Through Your Grief

When we're grieving, sometimes all we want is a fresh start. You can't undo your loss, so the next best thing is to move forward. Spring is a time of "Rebirth." It's the perfect time of year to get a fresh start on anything. This spring, take advantage of the changing season to help you through your grieving process.

4 Tips for Consoling Someone Who Has Lost a Child

Very few things are as painful or devastating as the loss of a child. There is no love like the love you feel for your child, so to lose that child is nothing short of a tragedy. Then what do you do for someone who has experienced such a loss? It seems like nothing you say or do is substantial enough to help. The parents don't expect you to undo their loss, they know you can't. But they do need you to be there for them and to support them in their time of sorrow. Here are 4 ways you can help console someone who is grieving the loss of a child.

 

Bring Joy Back Into Your Life Whilst Grieving

Contrary to some peoples’ ideas about grief it is possible to experience joy at life even in the midst of grieving.  Grief is not a static emotion but rather it ebbs and flows just like the ocean.  At some moments in our lives our grief is powerful like huge crashing waves upon rocks during a storm.  At other moments our grief is softer and gentler, like a baby wave caressing the sand on a quiet day.  It is when our grief is like this that we can start to find joy in our lives once again.

What To Do When Everyone Else Seems To Have Stopped Grieving

Grief can be a lonely experience and there is nothing lonelier than when those around you seem to start moving on with their lives and you seem to be the only person left grieving.

When faced with this it’s important to make the distinction between grieving and mourning. Grieving is something that we do internally. Mourning is the outward display of how we react to our loss. Just because someone is not mourning doesn’t mean they are not grieving.

Telling Their Stories

There are many different reasons and purposes for telling our grief story. Telling our story is important for so many reasons but understanding why we are telling it helps us to formulate the story for that purpose and to get the reaction that we wanting from telling it. There are three basic reasons that we tell a story and as we move through grief these reasons may change.

1. We tell our story to understand that it is real

The One Thing People Tend To Forget About Grief

In today’s society we are in such a rush to get on with things that when a loved one dies we don’t fully understand the need to slow down.  Indeed North American and British societies support this with the fact they only give three days bereavement leave for close family members.  As a result there is an expectation that we can move through grief quickly and it becomes challenging when this doesn’t happen.

Grief: It's Not About "Getting Over" Anything

There is a huge misconception about grief in that it’s something we have to get over.  Ask anyone who has lost a loved one and they’ll tell you it’s not about getting over anything.  It’s about learning to adapt to unwelcome change.  It’s about learning to live after loss.  It’s about moving through grief to find peace.  It’s about discovering how to keep your loved one in your life.  It’s about still having the courage to love and be open to the gifts that life can bring.