A Mindful Approach To Grief

As I speak these words to you my love is with you. alot of people may not understand what you are going through, how can they? After experiencing the death of my mother I know my truth of this experience. I realised the suffering I had been through was a lesson to understand that nothing is missing.

I believe we can use our pain if we don't hide from it. We seem in the west to supress death and pretend that people dont die, no one really shares with us how to deal with the death of a love onetherefore we hide with fear and grief after a death but this is the opposite of what we can do. 

You may notice that your grief or sadness from the perceived loss of your loved one may just hit you at anytime. These waves of emotion that overwhelm you can be triggered by something that you associate with that person.

oWhen we love someone we can become attached to them. This happens when your feelings and emotions of that person over the years become bigger it develops alot and replay the feelings over and over again and when you don't see that person you feel close to them. It is like when a loved one goes away when you have no contact you ache and wonder feeling lonely and depressed but soon as you hear from them the emotion is triggered assuring and you feel better again.

When a loved one dies you may think that it is the end of them, so you cut off the emotion and it acts violently the emotion is living and you created a feeling part of it. This is as if you have nutured it so it depends on your love, it's like saying it's all over and there is no love. When your crying it is your body and not you. become observent don't try and stop the crying or judge it, just allow.

 This subject is not spoken about much, remember it is the attachment and emotion that is missing, not you. You have to unite yourself during these times and love yourself, as you listen to this you will notice yourself become more present less divided and more whole.

Emotions come from living in the past and not being in love, you think about your loved one in the past and returning to places you had spent together just triggers memories. When you think about your loved one in the past tense you get emotional correct? When you don't think about the past tense it is gone right. The being you loved is present with you now, it is just their physical body that is departed. This is why when you present you feel them with you. Your loved one want's you to love and be happy and be the best you can be.