Way's I coped with my grief after my oldest sons death.

Ways I coped after the loss of my oldest son.

 However you may feel after the loss of a loved one, you must take care of you. Keep a journal where you can write down those emotional thoughts you wish not to share with others. Find your outlet in life, go back to your roots if necessary, speak to other’s who have lost someone, talk to a counselor, have faith in yourself, but find a right way to cope for you, mine was writing.

 Get in touch with your inner self, what brought you joy when you were a child, go back to visit your old stomping grounds, find those childhood friends and memories back.

I asked Dad once what happens when a person passes away. He replied, “Judy, you go back to the time in life where you the happiest. So, in my book Beyond Life, I decided for Charlie’s character to name him after a character from his gaming days, Feshy. Beyond Life is an adventure novel, but readers can see through the first chapters of my struggle with my grief. Feshy and Gigi, throughout Beyond Life discuss grief and the why did you leave me.

I have completed twenty-four radio interviews about my book Beyond Life, starting out was hard, how to keep calm, how to not cry, but I decided to let my feeling be heard, why hold in the grief? I was asked these questions a few times:

.What else can parents do to help cope with the loss of a child.

If you feel like crying, cry it releases those feelings of loss but also think of some way you can help yourself. You might want to talk to someone, you might want to join a support group, or talk to your pastor, or be like me write in a journal, or volunteer at the place your love one held dear to their heart, like an animal shelter, or donate money to a cause in their memory

• What’s an unhealthy way a parent might respond to the loss of a child?
• I see an unhealthy way as not seeing a future without your child because there is a whole world out there for you to explore. A person must find their own way to cope, think about what was important to your child that is for you to keep living. Your child would want to see you happy, find an outlet, other families, and people going through what you are going through. Maybe, putting yourself out in your community, volunteering, reading to children, painting, joining a fitness center to work off your stress.
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• Can you explain your faith and what you mean by Charlie walking beside you?

Charlie, lives in my heart, his spirit walks besides me as I journey throughout life. My Catholic faith and my upbringing of my Dad’s words carry me throughout life without my oldest son. Readers reading Beyond Life will see the spiritual part of family and roots as they read Beyond Life. Have faith in yourself, never give up, when you live your life, your loss one also lives on, it’s a spiritual feeling.