Man Grief vs. Woman Grief
I received an email yesterday from a fellow grieving dad who is doing research for a grant asking me if I had come across any articles on the subject of why/how men and women grieve differently.
Here is what he found in his research:
"There are times when the mind is dealt such a blow it hides itself in insanity. There are times when reality is nothing but pain and to escape that pain the mind must leave reality behind"
“Holidays? Yeah, right.” Jamie snorted. “Try celebrating anything while your heart is being ripped in two. The ripping began when he died, and it hasn’t let up since.”
The holidays are normally a stressful time of year. But to face them while immersed in all-out grief can be almost impossible to imagine.
Grief takes away your ability to breath. It takes away your talent, your normal, it takes away you. You have become an emotional freight train on a one way track to no where. There's suddenly no future ahead, only memories behind and darkness all around. It is void of people, reason, hope.
The struggle ends when gratitude begins. Neale Donald Walsch
The time is fast approaching
You'll be putting up the tree
Find a special bauble
Place it in loving memory of me
Each time you see the bauble
Recall our love so true
The Grief Toolbox offers tools for finding hope along this journey. Tools are what we all need as we navigate the road on our Journey Through Grief. When grief is in your face it can take you completely by surprise and take you on the wildest ride of your life.
This morning, I went to the closet to get dressed. And I looked to my left, where there are so many clothes hanging that I cannot wear. You see, when Bryan died, I was a size 4-6 and now, well, I am NOT. And I thought to myself, I don’t know why you don’t get rid of all that. You know you will never wear any of that.
